The Community Fund of Darien

The Community Fund of Darien's Thriving Youth Program is proud to partner with local organizations to provide high quality programing for Darien parents. The resources below are parents tips from recent event:

got resilience?


Top 10 Parenting Tips

  1. Be the person you hope your children will be as adults - your kids are watching you.
  2. Love the child you have, not the child you think they should be. They are a work in progress.
  3. Allow your kids to fail: early, fast and inexpensively.
  4. Turn the tables to see things from your kid's point of view. You may find a middle ground.
  5. Rules should be based on safety concerns that are non-negotiable.
  6. DON'T get on the roller coaster with them. Watch from the sidelines!
  7. Set and communicate high but realistic expectations for your child.
  8. Don't negotiate and do what you say you will.
  9. Stress happens. Teach and model healthy coping skills.
  10. Talk. Talk. And talk some more with your child.

An initiative of DHSPA, MPA and The Community Fund of Darien To learn more. visit


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Top 10 Tips for Communicating with Teens

  1. Notice times when your kids are most likely to talk. Forcing a conversation will only push them away.
  2. Find time each week to be alone with your child, and avoid cell phone use during that special time.
  3. Learn about your child's interests — for example, favorite music and activities — and find a way to bring those interests into your family life.
  4. When your child is talking about concerns, do more listening than talking.
  5. Listen to their point of view, even if it's difficult to hear.
  6. Don’t interrupt! Let them finish their point before you respond.
  7. Soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry or defensive.
  8. Express your opinion without putting down theirs; it's okay to disagree.
  9. Focus on your child's feelings, not your own during your conversation.
  10. Your kids learn how to deal with anger, solve problems and work through tough times by imitating you.

An initiative of DHSPA, MPA and The Community Fund of Darien To learn more. visit



top ten parenting tips

  1. ONE Remember that they have friends. They really need parents.
  2. TWOThe best way to talk to teens is on their terms and without judgement.
  3. THREEThey listen to what you say and care what you think. Keep reinforcing the message.
  4. FOURYour kids are watching you; you are ultimately their most important role model.
  5. FIVEThe teen brain is different from the adult brain. Introducing alcohol to the teen brain can change parts of the brain for a lifetime.
  6. SIXNo social gatherings unless parents are home. If you have offered to host a gathering, be vigilant and supervise.
  7. SEVENIgnorance is not a defense. Make sure you and your teens understand that there are criminal consequences for underage drinking and parties at your home.
  8. EIGHTKnow that you can be held criminally liable for your child's actions,even if you are not home.
  9. NINEDo not leave someone who has been using substances alone. Even if you think help is coming.
  10. TENLove them through their mistakes so they aren't afraid to share the next one.

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To view more resources for parent about substance abuse and mental health, Please visit:

You can watch Truth and Consequences here

New Canaan presented a parent series titled “Building Family Resilience,” featuring Darien’s Thriving Youth Task Force members, Dr. Frank Bartolomeo and Dr. Jamie Roach-Murray. You can watch the program here